It’s Time To Bring Back the Spark

Some may say a good relationship primarily consists of physical activity. Someone else may say that it is all about their individual success. Their individual statuses make them grow as a couple. I however, define a good relationship as happiness and love. Blah, blah, blah. Yes, we have all heard it before, but really who wants to be in a relationship with an unhappy person?

I know I don’t. I want a relationship where I can trust the other person. I want him to trust me as well. I would love for us to have our own set of friends. If I need a girl’s night out, then I’ll go, and he can have his night with the boys. But, we should also get along with each other’s friends. It’s good to mingle as long as there is an understanding that you are committed in your relationship.

Have you seen the couples that say they are happy and that “everything is wonderful”? Have you noticed their body language? Let’s say that you are at dinner with your fiancé. He introduces you to his boss and wife at a nearby table. You know they have issues. She is clearly stressed about something and he just eats his food without saying a word. Conversation is dead. When they leave, he doesn’t even touch her. No arm around the waist. Nothing! It’s nonsense. Do you want your relationship to be that way? I think not! Make it a happy relationship. It doesn’t take hard labor, it just takes effort.

1. When you see your boyfriend, fiancé, ect…tell him he looks good. Ask him if he has been to the gym. He loves the attention. Grab his arms and talk about how big they have gotten. Don’t make his ego too big though. All guys love this. It lets them know that you do look at them. Sometimes guys don’t think that they are buff enough. They even think they are fat at times. It’s silly because we know they are gorgeous. We just need to remind them.

2. Send him an email during the day, while he is at work. Just tell him what you love about him. He may even send you a response.

3. Let there be sparks in your relationship again. If you are married or you just don’t date as much as you used to, ask if ya’ll can go out, just the two of you. If you really haven’t been out in a while, don’t go to the movies. Guys get tired of that, especially chick flicks. That’s what your girlfriends are for. Girls, I know that they don’t make a big deal about it at the time, but on the inside they are waiting for the blood and gore. Do something spontaneous. Go on a weekend vacation, or go dancing. Do something that will bring back the sparks in the relationship.

I bet you are wondering who is she to be giving relationship advice? I may be only 19, but I’ve dated my fair share of jerks, and even some really nice guys. I’ve watched plenty of movies, and I really just felt like writing. I’ll stop my dramatic rage about relationships now. To end this, at 3:30 am, I just want to say, if the spark is not there, bring it back. It just might save your relationship.